Mothers Day is three days away and while it is less painful then previous years it still hurts. I miss my mom. Some days I really feel her presence like last weekend in New Orleans. Most of the trip I kept thinking of how much she would enjoy the city and then, when posing with local Indians in their colorful garb I was channeling my mother even repeating her mantra when forcing us to pose for photographs, “You’ll thank me later.”
So here I am, 33 years old, married with three children, running my mom’s business, running my own business, attending to my mom’s mom, and doing the best I can. There are times I feel just like my mom, other times I feel her presence beside me – one time I even channeled her telling me, “I can’t make it so obvious” and other times I just want to talk to her.
Earlier this week my husband’s boss’s wife invited me to some mother’s day fundraiser movie screening/ event. I did the big thing and invited my step mother (who subsequently ignored said email). I told my husband last night about the invite and he asked what I was doing instead. And he guffed when I said staying home. But I just do not want to be at some mother-daughter event that my mom would have enjoyed.
It’s hard. It’s supposed to be hard. And I remind myself how lucky I am to have a mother so wonderful whose void is so profound.